We Are Indigo

Assuming that you don’t fall for every fool who has a lingering glance your way… What are the chances you will get hurt while falling for someone? It’s a given that taking two people going into a situation, they are bound to be thinking different things.  Sitting on a see saw- on one side I am blind folded and on the other I sit with eyes wide open. I want to trust my instincts and let my senses take over. But my feet can’t feel the ground, and I don’t know if the person on the other end will jump off and leave me to hit the ground.

It’s easy to say trust your intuition. In actuality, it can be a little scary if you foresee real feelings. Sometimes after having been hurt, we repel the energy that we naturally attract. This is nothing more than our survival instincts working in high gear   – Evade the possibility of loss at all costs.

I am naturally a very optimistic person, and I do believe that everything happens as it should. But as it goes in life, things in my past have made me hesitant to jump right in the ocean again. Maybe for now, I’ll just dip my toe in to feel out the temperature. It’s only going to get warmer, right? The way I look at it, either way it’s a risk. You jump and possibly one day realize you’re treading water alone … or you walk away from the water dry wondering what if?

I would love to get some opinions on this. What do you guys think? Is it better to just stop thinking and throw yourself into your interactions?

“See I thought love was black and white, that it was wrong or it was right.”
- Missy Higgins

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Ok, well I’ll be up front and say that I can’t speak for all girls, I can only speak for myself. But here it goes… This is a pretty vague list (for lack of a better word), but these things are important, whether it be in a male or female partner. I’m not being overly critical, because these are things that anyone can work towards. When it comes to certain elements in the people we look for, there can’t be any room for settling.

1. He doesn’t need to put others down to boost his own ego.

2. He’s independent. He doesn’t need to do everything his friends do, and he can think for himself.

3.He isn’t afraid to speak his mind no matter the circumstance but recognizes the line between being honest and being rude

4. He makes an effort to put aside time for you and values when you do the same.

5. He has a positive outlook and motivates you.

6. He is willing to learn and aiming to be a better man.

See? Quick and painless…

Today is June 14, 2010. What have you done to let the people in your life know they are loved? What grudge have you let go of from yesterday? What fear will you leave behind today? I’m unsure as to whether or not I should touch upon the fact that I haven’t blogged in exactly four months….. yikes. That’s a long hiatus if I’ve ever seen one. I will give no excuses but will say that my leave of absence was not taken in vain. It has most certainly been a fruitful Spring. My second semester Junior year was one I will not forget and during which made some friends I know I will keep for a long time. What I learned—-> You never know the effect you can have on one person or what they may be going through when you cross paths. No act of kindness goes unnoticed.

In the calm, we are able to look back at the ruins that the storm has left and reflect with a clear mind. We know it will not be the last but we will be better prepared for the ones to come. The storms are inevitable, but the strength we gather from them is up to us. The lessons are there for us to learn, but often times we choose to overlook them. It is the learning that we find so difficult to face.

I tire easily around people who always need to be right. Granted, I’ve had my share of these moments, but doesn’t it get exhausting continuously having to prove your point? If we only concern ourselves with being right, we will find no room for growth. After all, how could it be that we already know everything and so have nowhere to grow?

So, my point is this…

If learning is the difficult part, then humility is the challenge and our ego is the obstacle. Ask yourself, is it better to be right or to be free? I know my answer now.

Wishing a Happy Valentines Day to everyone! I find it so interesting that one Holiday could have so much angst surrounding it. In my book, it’s just another day, a reminder of our reality (whatever that may be). Being single is not the end of the world, and every relationship is not perfect. I’m just glad I didn’t buy a Hallmark card this year.

This video’s from back in 2008. The song from the video is actually Shh by Donora, who I did a post on in the beginning of February. Enjoy!

There is a quote I have always liked… it goes something like, “love is an environment which you surround someone with in order for them to grow to their fullest potential.”

In our lifetime, we are constantly moving through different environments. Our moods are affected by so many different factors, both external and internal. I am what you would call a “highly sensitive person.” My mood depends greatly on those of the people around me. It is exhausting living with our emotions day in and day out, our ever changing moods clashing with others. This is where love comes in. It’s like our immune system, fighting off infections and disease. There is no big plastic bubble to step into to protect ourselves from the world around us. But when love is present, somehow the fight seems to fade away and become less important. When someone loves us fully and entirely with all of our flaws, it gives us courage. We are surrounded with an environment which allows us to thrive and grow.

Moment of truth – I haven’t been inspired much on the subject of love lately, but I was looking back in my journal, and I had written this a couple years back. I still think it holds true and not just in romantic relationships.

In romantic love you want the other person. In real love you want the other person’s good.
-    Margaret Anderson

Love is a condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.
-    Robert Heinlein

Keep your heart and mind open always!

More Than Love is off Amerie’s latest In Love & War album, which you can download off iTunes. This is a great video, especially the beginning when she is talking before the music cuts in. Trust is an element so vital to the health of a relationship. I know you can’t speak until you’ve walked in someone’s shoes, but if you can’t trust him, get out! It’s that simple. Even if he pulls a Benz in your face…. Are you really going to fall for that?

Link it.

A Mini Mixtape Series

(Don’t get too excited…or do… it’s only my own compilations)

Love… it’s an ambitious topic, and one that a whole blog could be dedicated to. Nevertheless, I attempted to put together a mini 4-part mixtape series of ‘The Evolution of Love.’ I tried to keep it in the hip-hop/r&b genre, otherwise I could have gone all over the place and never would have been able to narrow it down. I organized it temporally, or I guess you could say, causally, according to my own view of love, sort of as a personal diary. The break down: First comes The First Love, followed by the break up and so The Pieces Left. Then comes the transition between the healing process, the crush and the Transitory Love. And eventually through the search we arrive at The Catch.

Enjoy…. or don’t. Your choice. Click on the pictures to download the mixtapes.

The First Love

The Pieces Left

The Transitory Love

The Catch